Fairy Tales includes every emotions
There are certain point of time that I feel like I am so fed up with him.
Each time when I am unhappy, I will throw tantrum at him. I will show him my black face, I will not talk to him, and worse is I dont give him face. LOL!
After a year being together, we have been in this mode whereby when I am angry, he will just keep quiet. However, sometime I do feel like "why dont you pujuk me?" but sometime i will also dont give him face, when he pujuk me, I will say "shut up" / "go away". LOL which make both of us so awkward.
But each time when he unhappy, i will be the one who angry at him. I will tell him "how can you do this to me?" "why you so blur?" "why you this?" "why you that?"
So at the end of the day, he has to appologize, no matter he is of the correct side or wrong side. At that point of time where I will burst everything out then he will be the humble one who blame everything at himself. Heheee.. #win. :P
Recently i have been asking him "when you want to propose to me?" . To be honest, I sometime do think i dont deserve him. because he has been someone who very patient to me; and i dont know what good in me. I been telling him, Im not a good girl. I have bad temper. I scold him for no reason. I angry at most of the time. but still he said Im good.
He said i scolded him because i want him to be good. To be honest, I do admit that he sometime is somehow social awkward. He do not know how to socialise with people. Perhaps I understand because he grown up in a family that dont do such socialise. (own opinion). There are a lot of time that I will remind him, but he will insist on his way and we will end up not being happy. Okie, it meant i am stubborn also la :P
For eg, I personally think that when you want to visit someone, you have to inform them beforehand, because after all, its after operation, people need to rest. They dont keep awake to wait people to come visit. You tot CNY meh? even CNY also people need rest what.
for eg, you dont straight go into people's house without the house owner asking you to come in either by text or by words. because to some people, they might think that how come this person simply come in my house without my permission, Trespass ya? (he learnt!)
for eg, when you are with senior, you address them as Mr. XYZ. When you want to go off 1st, you will say Mr.XYZ, i make a move 1st. (just for the sake of example :P)
for eg. you dont be paparazi in public. because some girls / some aunty are very sensitive to this, they will think that you are pervert. (he learnt!)
For eg, when you are with a group of people, dont play your phone but talk and listen to what they are talking. Mix around and expand your network.
I do think that there are alot of things he still need to learn in order for him to be a better man. But I do know sometime i tell him in a very harsh way, because i feel very pekcek when he socially awkward. Maybe because for me, he should be knowing all these, when he dont, i feel like i cant accept. But i understand he need someone to teach him.
I dont deny he is a gentleman, but not when he is not feeling well or not when he is unhappy.
I do know I am not a person who know how to take care of others. thats why i wonder am i suitable to be someone wife? will i be a very harsh wife? will i be a very lousy wife?
apart from being social awkward. I also not happy with the fact that a lot of things he dont know how to do. I do understand it is because his family never allow him to do it by himself. so i cant blame him for that. but still i do think that as the age of an adult, it is time for parent to let go and let the children to do it by themself. I know this is something i cant change because it is his parent mentality, but i do hope he takes the initiative to at least try to do it by himself.
for eg, to boil water, for eg, to repairs electronic (yes, certain electronic we cant, but some simple 1, why not? i wish that he could learn and have more general knowledge. and dont rely on family so much because in the future, he will be the leader of the family who shall lead the family. If everything also dont know, what happen if next time the family face problems? I hope he will be more firm in making decision instead of scare of the outcome of the decision. To think more wise and think carefully.
i also hope that he will be able to be more brave, and not scare of this and that. Sometime i do wonder why he so scare or so afraid. But to be honest, it is due to the way he was brought up. since young, his parent kinda manja / sayang him. but i think this will only spoilt him from not being able to do things by himself.
he should have certain extend of leadership, certain extend of braveness to protect his love 1, certain extend of care to care his love 1. I wish he could be able to be more caring and show it in words and actions instead of just keep quiet and acknowledge without comfort.
See! relationship isnt about fairy tales, there are certain negative emotions in it, especially when you are with me because i pick every small tiny things. i ask for perfection. Thank you for bearing with me, and pls continue to bear with me. Hope that he will improve from time to time and be a better man for me and our future children, because it might be 2-3 years time to have our own family. (:
I know i have alot of flaws too, but i hope he will point it to me and i will change slowly. Will you tell me? please do, okie?
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Good Morning Love! have a great day at work today (:
Each time when I am unhappy, I will throw tantrum at him. I will show him my black face, I will not talk to him, and worse is I dont give him face. LOL!
After a year being together, we have been in this mode whereby when I am angry, he will just keep quiet. However, sometime I do feel like "why dont you pujuk me?" but sometime i will also dont give him face, when he pujuk me, I will say "shut up" / "go away". LOL which make both of us so awkward.
But each time when he unhappy, i will be the one who angry at him. I will tell him "how can you do this to me?" "why you so blur?" "why you this?" "why you that?"
So at the end of the day, he has to appologize, no matter he is of the correct side or wrong side. At that point of time where I will burst everything out then he will be the humble one who blame everything at himself. Heheee.. #win. :P
Recently i have been asking him "when you want to propose to me?" . To be honest, I sometime do think i dont deserve him. because he has been someone who very patient to me; and i dont know what good in me. I been telling him, Im not a good girl. I have bad temper. I scold him for no reason. I angry at most of the time. but still he said Im good.
He said i scolded him because i want him to be good. To be honest, I do admit that he sometime is somehow social awkward. He do not know how to socialise with people. Perhaps I understand because he grown up in a family that dont do such socialise. (own opinion). There are a lot of time that I will remind him, but he will insist on his way and we will end up not being happy. Okie, it meant i am stubborn also la :P
For eg, I personally think that when you want to visit someone, you have to inform them beforehand, because after all, its after operation, people need to rest. They dont keep awake to wait people to come visit. You tot CNY meh? even CNY also people need rest what.
for eg, you dont straight go into people's house without the house owner asking you to come in either by text or by words. because to some people, they might think that how come this person simply come in my house without my permission, Trespass ya? (he learnt!)
for eg, when you are with senior, you address them as Mr. XYZ. When you want to go off 1st, you will say Mr.XYZ, i make a move 1st. (just for the sake of example :P)
for eg. you dont be paparazi in public. because some girls / some aunty are very sensitive to this, they will think that you are pervert. (he learnt!)
For eg, when you are with a group of people, dont play your phone but talk and listen to what they are talking. Mix around and expand your network.
I do think that there are alot of things he still need to learn in order for him to be a better man. But I do know sometime i tell him in a very harsh way, because i feel very pekcek when he socially awkward. Maybe because for me, he should be knowing all these, when he dont, i feel like i cant accept. But i understand he need someone to teach him.
I dont deny he is a gentleman, but not when he is not feeling well or not when he is unhappy.
I do know I am not a person who know how to take care of others. thats why i wonder am i suitable to be someone wife? will i be a very harsh wife? will i be a very lousy wife?
apart from being social awkward. I also not happy with the fact that a lot of things he dont know how to do. I do understand it is because his family never allow him to do it by himself. so i cant blame him for that. but still i do think that as the age of an adult, it is time for parent to let go and let the children to do it by themself. I know this is something i cant change because it is his parent mentality, but i do hope he takes the initiative to at least try to do it by himself.
for eg, to boil water, for eg, to repairs electronic (yes, certain electronic we cant, but some simple 1, why not? i wish that he could learn and have more general knowledge. and dont rely on family so much because in the future, he will be the leader of the family who shall lead the family. If everything also dont know, what happen if next time the family face problems? I hope he will be more firm in making decision instead of scare of the outcome of the decision. To think more wise and think carefully.
i also hope that he will be able to be more brave, and not scare of this and that. Sometime i do wonder why he so scare or so afraid. But to be honest, it is due to the way he was brought up. since young, his parent kinda manja / sayang him. but i think this will only spoilt him from not being able to do things by himself.
he should have certain extend of leadership, certain extend of braveness to protect his love 1, certain extend of care to care his love 1. I wish he could be able to be more caring and show it in words and actions instead of just keep quiet and acknowledge without comfort.
See! relationship isnt about fairy tales, there are certain negative emotions in it, especially when you are with me because i pick every small tiny things. i ask for perfection. Thank you for bearing with me, and pls continue to bear with me. Hope that he will improve from time to time and be a better man for me and our future children, because it might be 2-3 years time to have our own family. (:
I know i have alot of flaws too, but i hope he will point it to me and i will change slowly. Will you tell me? please do, okie?
L
A
S
T
Good Morning Love! have a great day at work today (:
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